PSYCHDIARY

Change Involves Loss and Gain

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:October 5, 2019
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I have mentioned previously that I am often not a fan of change. It tends to make me anxious and I take comfort in the familiar. I am not alone…

Judging Is Easier Than Thinking

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:October 1, 2019
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“Thinking is difficult. That’s why most people judge.” This quotation I saw has been playing over and over in my head. There is a lot of truth to it. Though I…

Time To Cool Off

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:September 25, 2019
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Does anyone else get that sinking feeling in their gut when someone is angry at them? I find it anxiety provoking in general, but it is especially true when it’s…

Do You Dismiss Your Own Experience?

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:September 18, 2019
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I recently posted the below meme that lists common ways we dismiss our own feelings. My intention was to remind everyone how important it is not to invalidate ourselves by…

Remembering 9/11

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:September 11, 2019
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My son came down for breakfast looking uncharacteristically serious this morning. When I asked if something was bothering him, he responded simply “Its 9/11.” Those words don’t need much explanation…

Responsible or Responsive: Reacting To Others’ Distress

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:August 28, 2019
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I once had a client tell me “I wish my friends didn’t feel responsible for my feelings.” She explained that it was actually more stressful for her. At first, this…

My Back-To-School Emotions

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:August 24, 2019
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I recently wrote a post for Psychology Today explaining some of the distorted thought patterns that underlie back-to-school anxiety (“How Can I Help With back To School Anxiety”). In doing…

I Am A Planner For Better And Worse

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:August 20, 2019
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I am a planner…with a capital “P.” When I was ten, I told my dad I wanted to be a psychologist, work part-time and be home with my kids part-time. Guess…

Validating Different Vacation Styles

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:August 13, 2019
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In my post last week, “Different Choices Can Both Be Valid,” I attempted to write about recognizing the legitimacy of people having different ways of doing things. I was reflecting…

Different Choices Can Both Be Valid

Post Author:Alisa
Post published:July 31, 2019
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When my kids were young, I was very conscious of not cursing in front of them. While I admit that I can have a “colorful” vocabulary at times, I did…